Random Talk

Hubby and me are currently going through marriage counselling session. Why we went through these is because I found flirting messages that he sent with a woman and when I confronted him, he says that's all because I did not give him regular sex life and he is just venting out. No actions done. I agree, after pregnancy of my #1 and now with #2, I always felt tired and rejected him when he initiates. Or rather I originally have low sexual drive. Is that a reason of betrayal? He also says I have invaded his privacy which that's something that he cannot tolerate. I thought counselling can helps to make him understand he is wrong in that aspect for the messages and the most ridiculous thing is he told the woman he still not convinced our 2 year old son belongs to him. I wanted to do DNA to prove my innocence and give justice to my Son but he wanted to ask me pay first cos he does not have enough $. I often think why am I deserving such a treatment just because I did not attend to his sexual needs? Now my question is why will he think his is totally not at fault? I cannot rationale this and he told the counsellor the reason why he comes for the session is just want to see how the counsellor resolve my low sex drive issue and not to save the marriage for our differences and no trust? If my issue is settled, everything will be back to normal and he simply did not think on how bad I was hurt about the betrayal and injustice about doubting our Son is not his. I kind of helpless too cos I am 6 months pregnant with our Daughter now. If there is any daddy advice addressing my question will be appreciated too. Sorry for the lengthy post.

16mo LO, hubby and i are staying at my parents place as our home will only be ready in Dec. I am also currently preg in my 37weeks. Parents have always been interfering whenever we try to teach or guide LO. Since baby, LO has always been taken care by parents and recently(these few days), LO is super duper sticky to mum. He will scream and yell until he sees mum. Furthermore, if we don give in to him in any ways, he will also scream and cried badly. Hubby and I have been trying not to let LO has his way. But whenever we are educating and explaining to LO, my parents especially my mum will interfere. Ytd night while slping halfway, LO woke up screaming and crying for no reason. Tried coaxing him with things he stopped crying, after awhile he cried again. Mum came in the room scolded us for letting LO cry and she took LO away. Hubby and i tried to tell her that this is not the right way to teach LO and he will know how to get things in his way. Its gonna be a bad habit. Ended up having a heated arguments, they claimed that we do not have the ability to take care of LO and still trying to act smart. Mum says that leave LO with her and she knows how to take care of him. Parents said that we do not know what is best for LO. We made him cry and we don't love him, just being selfish to keep him by our sides when LO doesnt even want to be with us. In the end dad shouted at us! He said " take ur son away all u want and move out of the house now, u can teach and guide whatever ways u may like, leave!" I was so angry but hubby pulled me away. I really feel so angry why would they(parents) behave like this? In the past, i remembered clearly that they told my grandparents that they are not supposed to interfere in any ways how they(parents) gonna bring up the kids. Why is it now they are doing different thing? And to think that, dad could just happily chase us out just because we are staying at their place now.

Hi Mummies, Any of you feel that your Husband is not pro-active with kids? My Husband always need to me tell him what to do with my #1.. I'm currently pregnant with #2. I have told him that he needs to be more pro-active now that I'm pregnant with #2 but he is not. LO is not close to him and I feel like I always the one who discipline her. I am not too sure whether I'm expecting too much. My husband is doing all the chores now due to my pregnancy. Daddies can provide some opinions as well.

Is it true no milk powder to be bring to Australia ? If we are travelling with lo , we cant bring food pouch neither milk powder ? Please share experience ..

Just ranting.. I currently live with my in-laws. Will be shifting to a new home soon, but pil will be shifting with us. Actually, I am not looking forward to living with them. I need my privacy and to do things my way. But living with them, although in husband and my name, somehow still got to accommodate to their needs and wants. ? Anyone in a similar situation?

Just to ask. When your relatives die or having some serious medical conditions do u inform ur pils to let them know? My father ask me to inform my pils that 1 of my relative just died. He said is a must because my pils also related. I told him "why must i inform them when its my family matters? Its not like my they need to know everything about me. As if they will tell me about them also." He replied "why u talk like that? U must respect ur pils and let them know." Wtf? After all its my family matters not them. I dont think its something that is very proud to announce. I mean, u dont have to tell "everyone" right?

Any recommendations for marriage counsellor? Whats the price range like? Thanks!

What if your husband is a mummy's boy? What if his mother is always wanting to be the first to know about anything and everything and controlling at the same time. What if you have already lost all respect and patience. What if?

Want to rant! my Husband wants to be hands on dad and willing to help out with newborn if I need his help. We are both extremely tired because taking care of newborn with zero help is jus exhausted. So weekend came and I look forward to it so that we can co-parent whole day. However he rather spend LO nap time to watch tv then at night he will be v tired n give me the "I'm-so-freaking-tired-and-i-still-have-to-help-out" face. Whilst me, I quickly take the opportunity to take naps while LO sleeps. N thruout the night I still do my "night duty" plus pumping. He still help but I jus hate it that he gave a face n help. Who ask him not to catch some rest when LO is sleeping!

What should you do if you find out your hubby have another child from his ex-gf? I found out my hubby have another kids with his ex-gf after one year our marriage .i know this after I checked his phone and saw massage from this woman asking money. I call the number and woman there said my hubby have 10yo son. The kids and ex-gf is at oversea. They know each other when the woman is working in Singapore. What should I do? And I am currently pregnant.