Question for Husband or soon to be fathers out there

Question

Ask ko lang po if normal po bang lumambot si jr. niyo while having sex with your wife? Im currently 8 mos pregnant and acc. To my Ob okay lang magsex kami husband ko while pregnant pero si hubby ayaw nya makipagsex sakin kahit na ako na nangyayaya minsan. Napagbigyan naman po ako 2x una nung 3 mos preggy ako di siya nilabasan as in 3 times nanlambot si jr nya at 3 times ko pinapatigas by bj pero sinukuan ko na ng 4th time nanlambotkaai parang hopeless talaga. Naulit po ulit yun yung 6mos preggy ako ganon din nanlalambot padin sinukuan ko ulit nung 4th time na nanlambot. Hindi ko po alam yung dahilan bakit ganon nangyayare tinatanong ko po siya bakit hindi nya din daw po alam pero sure ako may reason yun bakit ganon. Simula po kasi nabuntis ako sunod sunod na away na namin umaabot pa sa hiwalayan at layasan hindi ko po alam kung dahil din po doon pero lately po nakalkal ko phone nya na may sinesave siyang pic ng random girls na nakabikini or mga halos hubad na girls tapos nakita ko rin nanonood siya ng porn. Pls help po kahit yung mga may idea lang kasi sobrang nabobother na po talaga ako para po sakin malaking impact yun sa relationship namin kasi noon sobrang intimate nya pagdating sa sex. Thank you po sa mga sasagot. Sana po makapagshare din kayo para magkaron ako ng konting idea man lang. 🥺

Mommy Hazel of theAsianparent · Answer

Hugs, Mommy! mahirap po yung pinagdadaanan niyo because it affects not only your relationship but also your self-confidence. Pero please remember that this is not about you and how you look. You are beautiful kaya siya na in love sayo in the first place. The issue now is pornography inside the marriage kaya siguro hindi ok ang sex ninyo lately. Yes, it is common for men to have the tendency to watch porn, pero kahit common yan, it doesn't mean na OK yan. Pornography within marriage is an unhealthy habit and damaging ito sa intimacy ninyong dalawa na dapat sainyo lang. What you can do, Mommy, is to talk to him in a very loving way na you want your marriage to be stronger and to point out that seeing those photos is hurting your confidence. Then maybe you can invite him for a getaway. Magbakasyon kayo or kahit mag-date man lang. Intentionally put yourselves in a romantic environment. honestly kasi nakakadrain sa bahay pag lagi na lang kayo nandoon. I wish you all the best, Mommy! Basta don't ever forget na you are beautiful, please!

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